About

I’m a cradle Catholic and grew up the oldest in a house of 13 children in the Midwest. My early childhood included lots of days of sitting on my loving mother’s lap as she read stories of fairy tales, Dr. Seuss and the Bible. We had a cherry tree in our backyard and my sister and I used to climb up,  pretend it was our dinosaur and that we could see the world from it. I still enjoy observing the world. New siblings came into our household nearly every year and were welcomed with love and joy.  I still enjoy my siblings.

My parents fostered many infants after mom could no longer have any children. It is through the fostering system that my youngest brother joined us permanently as our brother.

When I think of being a child I think of the smell of clean laundry, cookies, and the soothing sound of my mother’s voice. Oh, and the laughter of babies. Always the laughter of babies.

My parents provided strong catechesis in the midst of declining catechesis being taught in the Catholic schools. Dinners in my childhood  included lively discussions about faith, morals and current events. My father was and is a man of great faith, strong, firm, and a very hard worker. He started off working at the post office. Then he was an accountant. Then a banker. Then a consultant. Today, at age 70 he is still working, and making things in his workshop out of wood.

When I was 10 I wrote my first letter to a Congressman, and have been writing to them ever since. Now, my kids write politicians too. The ripple has rippled. Once,  my seven year old son invited a senator to dinner, and much to all of our surprise, he came. I’ll never forget my seven year old sharing with him, over dinner, his pro-life views and as an aside, “Don’t mind the wallpaper. It’s got to go.” I don’t remember the good senator minding at all that the wallpaper was of ’70s looking sailing ships which were left by the previous owner. In time we changed it to paint- but I digress……

My husband was my very first date. I met him on the putting green of a golf course, where his dad was the golf professional. I was 16. He was 18. He asked my father if he could take me out. Dad said yes. So did I. My husband and I been married 25 years this year. David is a lawyer, an accomplished amateur golfer. He is strong, smart and amazing. He makes me laugh every day. He is the ‘ease’ in easy going and I am a first born recovering worry wart .  We have nine wonderful children ages six to 24.

We strive for home-cooked organic meals, regular clean clothes in the drawers and order, but sometimes we buy tacos or supermarket chicken or eat {gasp!} potato chips, and the laundry is never caught up.  Since the kids are happy and David is happy I don’t care. You can’t take food and folded clothes to heaven.

Yes, absolutely, it’s a wonderful life.

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Contact me at TheresaThomasEverydayCatholic at gmail dot com

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13 thoughts on “About”

  1. will casey said:

    Great web site-a joy to read.

    Please pray for my wife. She married me-a widower with a large family and she has had a tough time adapting. She is perfectionistic and with 6 kids this is hard on all and coupled with a bad temper and a lack of good formation and the certitude that dialogue with her husband is pointless and you can see how a marriage can become a small hell. It is affecting my kids. I have tried to get her steered towards marriage counselling with me; talking with priests and suggesting medical help but this is routinely brushed aside. It’s as if the only thing that will work is if she gets a good spanking but I won’t do that to a 40 year old woman. She talks about divorce on a periodic basis. My youngest kids view her as “Mom” the older ones are all tied up inside….. {{{{{deleted for commenter privacy}}}}………
    I think other people get better results than I do with prayer so I turn to you and your great family. How I wish my kids could have a loving and stable household where the 10 commandments are cherished and lived and where the parents are united in their mission and objectives towards raising good holy and sound kids and future adults and responsible spouses and parents or religious or single people.

  2. theresathomas said:

    Dear Will-

    I am so sorry for your pain. You have been through a lot, losing a wife, trying to raise your children in the midst of their own pain, and to be there not only for them but also for your new wife who seems to be struggling so much as well. Please know that God loves you so much and desires that you have a happy family!

    As difficult as it is, God has called you to be the spiritual leader of your family. This will not be easy. However, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philipians 4:13) You must find how you can be that spiritual leader. You can talk to a wise, orthodox and seasoned priest. You can go to a solid Catholic counselor to start the process of healing.

    You mentioned that your wife will not go to counseling. But YOU can seek it. You can go to help yourself make positive choices to get your family back on track. I am not a counselor but I want to make a recommendation- be very careful about who you pick to give you advice. If it is someone local in your community, make sure he (yes, I recommend a ‘he’ for a male) is a Catholic that is faithful to the Magisterium of the Church. If you are open, there is a wonderful Catholic organization that does marriage counseling via the phone– Pastoral Solutions at exceptional marriages here:

    http://www.exceptionalmarriages.com/services.htm#counselors

    The counselor can help you examine whether you might be suffering from depression (which seems like a normal response in the circumstances you describe) and will offer suggestions to improve your daily life, which you CAN take control over, even if your wife is not yet open to change. You do not have to be in this pain. Likely, she is experiencing great pain as well or she would not be reacting like this. There are reasons behind her actions.

    As a wife I can guess what those reasons might be (maybe competing with the memory of a *perfect* dead woman, feeling overwhelmed in a situation she perceives to be chaotic –a large family– and un-used to, feeling misunderstood and unloved- perhaps that the children get her husband’s best attention…) These are FEELINGS, remember, not necessarily FACTS. Obviously, I am just guessing here, and this is NOT meant as a recrimination on you at all. I’m just suggesting what might be at the cause of her lashing out. That doesn’t make it right of course. You also have very legitimate pains and needs. The point is, you need to work through them together and seek understanding as a couple, privately.

    As a wife I can also say that the greatest thing a woman can do for her family (beyond being a faithful Catholic) is to love and treasure her husband, who is really God’s greatest gift to her in disguise. Many women love to try to make their husbands’ lives as happy and comfortable as they can in many little ways throughout the day, from making sure he has clean clothes, to fixing him a simple breakfast in the morning, to rubbing his neck after a stressful day. You can have this too!

    This challenge is an opportunity for the two of you to grow together, but first, you need to dig out. And someone needs to reach out first.

    Will, I will certainly pray for you – and your wife and family, and I’m sure that anyone else reading this will be happy to join in and pray as well. Please do make the call above- It doesn’t have to be this way- the time is up- you need to find peace.

    God bless you and many prayers-
    Please let me know how you are after you make this call-

    Theresa

  3. Mom, I nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award! 🙂

    Love You!

    ~G

  4. Hi Theresa,
    Since joining LinkedIn I have found so many great people practicing their faith. Your Web site caught my attention when you mentioned being from the midwest and especially with the Stories for the Homeschool Heart. My daughter homeschools her 5 children.
    Since my retirement I have been creating and hand-crafting Rosaries that are a little out of the ordinary. There is always time to pray the Rosary no matter where you are or what you are doing.
    Thanks for providing such a great Web site.
    Wayne Kneeskern
    Travel Rosary
    http://www.travelrosary.com
    400 N Washington St
    Richland, IA 52585

  5. Hi Theresa,
    Thanks for stopping by and “liking” my Easter Triduum blog. I started reading your blogs on Integrated Catholic Life. Catholic mom bloggers such as you and Patti Armstrong have inspired me to start my own Catholic mom blog as I try to work out integrating my Catholic life of prayer, family, entrepreneurship. Writing my other, professional blog just wasn’t enough. Thanks for encouraging my newborn attempts at writing a personal blog. It means alot to me. God bless you.

    Terry

    • Hi Terry-
      Gosh, thank you~
      Your voice is very important- Keep it up! You are off to a great start. I enjoyed reading your posts and love what I’ve read so far. I’ll be visiting you often- ❤
      Funny you should reference "newborn" attempts- the baby reference is so appropriate for a mother of 8 –both because it's in the large family mode AND because creating a blog IS kind of like giving birth- 🙂 Happy blogging- see you over there!
      Theresa

  6. Hi Mom,
    I nominated you for the “One Lovely Blog Award”.

    ~Gracie

    http://everythingwithgrace.wordpress.com/2012/05/25/why-wait/

  7. donnaellisart said:

    my husband and i met when i was sixteen and he was seventeen. it went a little downhill after that but today it’s all good, by God’s grace. rock on, my sistah.

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